Why do people live in the past? I've encountered a few bumps in the road recently and they all involve past experiences. Now, I'm not one to point fingers or judge - I myself tend to think of things that have happened in the past and let them control my life. I tend to dwell. But, being aware of this has helped and I am making a conscious effort to live in the moment. You should be aware of your past and let it help you in the future - but it shouldn't control your future! What is the point of dwelling on something that can't be changed? You just create all of this negative energy and emotions toward something that doesn't exist anymore. I know it is easy to live in the past. It is easy to be unhappy. It is easy to look at others as the cause of your unhappiness, when you really should be looking in the mirror. But most people, won't like what they see, so they don't look. They don't look and they continue to be miserable. I wish people could realize how much better life becomes once they face their problems - whatever they may be. Maybe it's a past relationship that is hard to let go of. Maybe it is someone who needs to be forgiven. Whatever the case may be, it needs to be dealt with. It's in the past, therefore, it isn't real anymore. Stop being upset over something that isn't real! Stop letting something that doesn't exist anymore control your life and relationships with others! I promise you, once you stand up to this you will be free! A huge burden will have been lifted off of your shoulders and your life will fall into place. All of the pieces will come together and you will be able to sit back, relax, and watch everything unfold into something great!
Trust me, I've done it. Once I stopped blaming all of the pathetic assholes from my past - mostly high school kids - I was finally able to free myself of all the problems I was having. (I say ALL sounding like I'm this troubled person - I'm not. I have had a very great life - there have just been a lot of challenges as well) There was a time when I was constantly reliving my high school days when people called me fat, told me to lose weight, and made fun of me for other ridiculous things. I always went back to that time and saw them as the root of my troubles. Once I realized I was doing this to myself - as hard as that was - a lot of good things started happening. I stopped living in the past, in a time that wasn't real anymore, and now deal with any problem by pointing the finger at myself first. I feel so much better! And so will you!
Love, Lili
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